Sunday, February 6, 2011

A lifetime Association that needs to be keenly established


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Marriage is an association of two people who have agreed to walk together for the rest of their lives. It’s a very critical and sensitive association that calls for all who are in it and those intending to establish it to be very keen.
First of all, one needs to identify the rightful partner, one who will be able to stay by you even if life turns its back on you, one who will be able to nurse the wounds that you sustain in the course of life, one who will love you with all their strength. In that case therefore, anyone intending to get married needs to do a through vetting of the person to marry.

In the past, before people entered into marriage, they would undergo a guidance and counseling process conducted by elders, people who have marriage experience spanning decades and decades. They would be guided on how they are supposed to live with each other, how they are supposed to handle any arising issues and any other thing pertaining to marriage.However,modernization has slowly replaced these traditional structures and nowadays there are professional and “professional counselors” over to guide young people intending to marry.

During wedding it was a must for those who are referred as best couples to be people who are married, people with experience in marriage who can advise you on how to go about your marriage.However, there’s a new trend nowadays in terms of choosing best couples. Young people ask their friends who are not married to be their best couples at their weddings. It may be a good idea but the question that one may ask is, in case you find yourselves into really deep issues in the course of your marriage, will that single friend who was your best man or woman be able to help you sort out your issues amicably?, how will he or she be able to do that yet they don’t have marriage experience? Some young people argue that since there’s internet all over, one can browse and get information that will help in such a case. This argument does not hold water though, simply because internet is a platform for all and sundry to display their thoughts and so what you may find and think it’s a solution for your problem may not be, it may aggravate your issues instead.

There’s need to keep in touch with our traditional structures to provide guidance and counseling for marriage as we embrace the modern concept as well in order to build and strengthen this institution of marriage.